6 Human Needs


According to Tony Robbins, these are our top 6 Human Needs.  If we can learn to have balance in each of these areas, we will be more successful and fulfilled.  The first four needs are defined as needs of the personality and the last two are identified as needs of the spirit.

Need 1: Certainty 

The need for safety, stability, security, comfort, order predictability, control and consistency.

The first human need is the need for Certainty.  It’s our need to feel in control and to know what’s coming next so we can feel secure. It’s the need for basic comfort, the need to avoid pain and stress, and also to create pleasure. Our need for certainty is a survival mechanism. It affects how much risk we’re willing to take in life—in our jobs, in our investments, and in our relationships. The higher the need for certainty, the less risk you’ll be willing to take or emotionally bear. By the way, this is where your real “risk tolerance” comes from.

Need 2: Variety

Need for variety, surprise, challenges, excitement, difference, chaos, adventure change and novelty.

Do you like surprises?  You like the surprises you want. The ones you don’t want, you call problems! But you still need them to put some muscle in your life. You can’t grow muscle—or character—unless you have something to push back against.

Need 3: Significance

The need to have meaning, special, pride, needed wanted, sense of importance and worthy of love.

We all need to feel important, special, unique, or needed. So how do some of us get significance? You can get it by earning billions of dollars, or collecting academic degrees—distinguishing yourself with a master’s or a PhD. You can build a giant Facebook following. Or you can brag about your achievements and think others really care or by putting tattoos and piercings all over themselves to gain attention. You can get significance by having more or bigger problems than anybody else.

Spending a lot of money can make you feel significant, and so can spending very little.

Everyone perceives and acts out their significance in different ways.

Need 4: Love & Connection

The need for communication, unified, approval and attachment  – to feel connected with, intimate and loved by other human beings.

Love is the oxygen of life; it’s what we all want and need most. When we love completely we feel alive, but when we lose love, the pain is so great that most people settle on connection, the crumbs of love. You can get that sense of connection or love through intimacy, or friendship, or prayer, or walking in nature. If nothing else works, you can get a dog.

These first four needs are what I call the needs of the personality. We all find ways to meet these—whether by working harder, coming up with a big problem, or creating stories to rationalize them. The last two are the needs of the spirit. These are more rare—not everyone meets these. When these needs are met, we truly feel fulfilled.

Need 5: Growth

The need for constant emotional, intellectual and spiritual development


If you’re not growing, you’re dying. If a relationship is not growing, if a business is not growing, if you’re not growing, it doesn’t matter how much money you have in the bank, how many friends you have, how many people love you—you’re not going to experience real fulfillment. And the reason we grow, I believe, is so we have something of value to give


Need 6: Contribution

The need to give beyond ourselves, give care, protect and serve others.

The Secret to Living is Giving!!  Life’s not about me; its about we. Think about it, what’s the first thing you do when you get good or exciting news? You call somebody you love and share it. Sharing enhances everything you experience.

Life is really about creating meaning. And meaning does not come from what you get, it comes from what you give. Ultimately it’s not what you get that will make you happy long term, but rather who you become and what you contribute will.  The ultimate significance in life comes not from something external, but from something internal. It comes from a sense of esteem for ourselves, which is not something we can ever get from someone else. People can tell you you’re beautiful, smart, intelligent, the best, or they can tell you that you are the most horrible human being on earth—but what matters is what you think about yourself. Whether or not you believe that deep inside you are continuing to grow and push yourself, to do and give more than was comfortable or you even thought possible. The wealthiest person on earth is one who appreciates.

On-Purpose Thinking


My mentor, Joyce Meyer always speaks to my heart and my soul.  I admire her consistency in her Faith and her teachings on how we can better our lives just by following scripture.  Today I was reading her teaching on ‘On-Purpose Thinking”  and it spoke to me.

Isn’t it amazing how quickly and completely our thoughts can change our moods?  Negative thinking of any kind quickly steals our joy and causes bad moods.  When we are negative, grumpy and gloomy, other people don’t enjoy being around us; when our thoughts are down, everything else goes down with them.  Our moods, countenance, conversation and even our body language can begin to droop in a downward position.

People who tend to be negative in their thoughts and conversations are usually unhappy and rarely content with anything for very long.  Even when something exciting happens they chose to find something wrong with it or don’t ever see the good in anything.

They don’t even realize that they could be happy if they simply change the way they think.

We have the ability to make ourselves happy or sad or mad by what we chose to think about.  The Bible Says we must be satisfied with the consequences of our word, whether they are good or evil.  (Prov: 18:20)

Our words begin with our thoughts, so the same principle that applies to our mouths also applies to our minds.  We need to be satisfied with the consequences of our thoughts because they hold the POWER of like and death.  I would add that they hold the power of contentment ad discontent, of joy and sadness.  -JOYCE MEYER

Reasons To Control Your Stress Pt.1

stressed shutterstock_169609262About 2 months ago, I started to notice some changes in how I was feeling. I was having minor pains in my chest. It was only sporadic, so I didn’t think anything of it. Until about 1 week later, when it started getting stronger and more pronounced. I thought maybe I had a rib out or maybe it was just pain from a tough workout, but then the symptoms didn’t get better, they got worse. I would need to take deep breaths a lot and the only time if felt better was when I was sleeping. About another week later, My husband would notice me grabbing chest and I shared what was going on and he said “Teri, you have the exact symptoms of a women having a heart attack, I think you should go in” I said.. no…. I’m ok.  If it doesn’t get better by the end of the week, I’ll go in. Well, now I was starting to get concerned and a little freaked out, so the next morning, I was training my clients of which a few are nurses.. and they advised me to go in and get checked. I bucked and grumbled…. But in the back of my mind, I was concerned enough to go in. I had never had this before, I felt off and it scared me.

Long story short, I went in to Urgent care, had an echo cardiogram, chest x-ray and the doctor came in to tell me that my heart was in perfect condition, the x-ray was just fine, the echo cardiogram was totally fine and my blood pressure was good.  She asked me if I was stressed? I took a deep breath … and said… “Yes”.

Stress. It’ so powerful. Here I am a very healthy woman, who exercises and eats right and never gets sick… but… is having chest pain because of my stress level. What was even more eye opening to me was that I didn’t “think” I was that stressed, but…. I was “am”. It was THAT day I decided to manage my stress better, take some time to pray about the stressful items in my life, and ironically, within a day, I had no more discomfort. Part of the stress is the mental process you have to go through, thinking you might be having heart problems (or whatever health issue or stress you may be facing) … so it goes to show you that what we “think” is passed on to how our body operates.

Stress that is worrisome is chronic stress and it can affect you negatively in multiple ways.

Let’s Talk about the Stress Response and what It is.

Whenever your body is stressed, via mentally, physically or internally, it creates a “metabolic overdrive.” Adrenaline and cortisol flood the body. Blood pressure, breathing and heart rate increases. Glucose is released into the bloodstream for ready energy. Digestion, growth, reproduction and immune system functions are suppressed or put on hold. Blood flow to the skin is decreased and pain tolerance is increased.

The problem is, your body perceives distress in many different ways: Mental/Emotional, Physical/Biochemical and hormonally. So if any or all of these are out of balance, your system perceives it as a problem and reacts internally.

In todays fast pace world, we operate as if we’re in a constant, low-grade state of emergency, with no real end in sight. Many of us don’t physically dispel stress hormones or take the time to resolve the real problems. We don’t soothe ourselves or take the time to question our priorities.


It Suppresses Your Immune System

People are much more susceptible to infections and experience more severe symptoms when they come down with a cold or flu if they are stressed. Also unable to fight off infections as easily. If your body thinks it’s facing an immediate danger so chronic stress definitely dampens your immune system.

Stress contributes to inflammation in the body. Inflammation has been linked to a multitude of health conditions and diseases, from asthma and diabetes to cancer and heart disease.

Chronic Stress Causes Aging

The stress response turns off many physiological processes which include the lack of blood flow to the skin. That’s certainly going to affect how old you look.

Stress can affect the aging brain. We all lose brain cells as we age.  Stress allows more toxins to cross the blood-brain barrier and cortisol damages the hippocampus, brain function, new learning and memory are greatly affected.

Another study found that hippocampus size was linked to the rate of progression in Alzheimer’s disease.

Chronic stress can also contribute to aging in terms of arthritis, cardiovascular disease and

It Contributes to Digestive Disorders and Weight Gain

Since digestion is also dialed down during the stress response, chronic stress can contribute to a variety of digestive disorders. Bloating, cramping, constipation and diarrhea are common symptoms of chronic stress. So too, is acid reflux and irritable bowel syndrome. Stress can worsen ulcers and inflammatory bowel disease.

Cortisol contributes to the accumulation of dangerous belly fat and worsens cravings for fat, salt and sugar. Eating unhealthy carbs can be soothing as this lessens the behavioral and hormonal imbalances associated with the stress response. Unfortunately, this behavior can become habitual and lead to health problems like diabetes and heart disease.

Now’s a good time to talk about the STRESS HORMONE CORTISOL

Connect: Cortisol

Cortisol is the primary glucocorticoid hormone in the body and often referred to as the key ‘stress hormone’ that helps maintain homeostasis by mediating various physiological responses that include:

  • Regulating blood sugar levels
  • Influencing macronutrient utilization to maintain blood glucose levels (e.g., stimulating gluconeogenesis)
  • Fat deposition
  • Having anti-inflammatory and some immuno-stabilizing effects
  • Influencing hormonal and nerve system responses

As cortisol is our primary stress hormone, it responds during periods of stress (e.g., exercise, missed meals or starvation, following insufficient sleep), but returns to baseline when the stress is removed. However, with our continual exposure to psychological stress, this recovery or return to baseline may not occur. Health concerns exist, as seen in the chart below, with elevated levels of cortisol associated with chronic stress or from suppressed levels of cortisol. Levels generally fluctuate throughout the day, usually reaching the lowest levels 2 – 4 hours after falling asleep (e.g., 2 – 4 am) as we transition into deep sleep and reaches the highest levels in the hours immediately prior to waking (e.g., 6 – 7 am) as the body enters a prolonged fasted state and prepares itself to wake-up and increase metabolism.

Chart below: Effects of Elevated or Suppressed Cortisol Levels

cortisol chartChronic Stress Affects Your Mood and Relationships

Constant stress can affect your sleep patterns, make you irritable and fatigued, unable to concentrate and highly reactive. You may become unable to relax and operate in a state of anxiety. Depression is a common reaction to chronic stress. All of these things can downgrade your quality of life and affect your relationships with others. Chronic stress is associated with feelings of helplessness and lack of control. Perfectionists are more likely to suffer from disrupted serotonin levels due to stress, the “feel-good” neurotransmitter in the brain.

Stress Increases Pain

Links between pain severity and chronic stress have been established with headaches, joint pain and muscle pain. Stress seems to intensify arthritis pain and back pain. Work stress is associated with backaches and stress increases the occurrence and severity of tension headaches.

Stress Affects Sexuality and Reproductive Functions

Chronic stress reduces sexual desire in women and can contribute to erectile dysfunction in men. Chronic stress is linked to premenstrual syndrome severity and can affect fertility in women. Stress during pregnancy is linked to higher rates of premature birth and miscarriage. Stress during pregnancy may also affect how infants themselves react to stress after birth. Chronic stress can also worsen hormonally-based mood changes that accompany menopause.

Chronic Stress Affects Your Skin, Hair and Teeth

Hormonal imbalances due to stress and the fact that blood flow to the skin is reduced during the stress response can negatively affect your skin, hair and teeth. Eczema is a common reaction to stress. Acne, hives, psoriasis and rosacea have also been linked to stress. Hair loss and gum disease have also been linked to stress.

Stress Increases Risk of Heart Attack, Heart Disease, Stroke and High Blood Pressure

A direct link between chronic stress and increased risk for heart attack, heart disease and stroke has not yet been established by researchers. What chronic stress does do, reports UMMC, is worsen risk factors for these conditions.

Stress increases your heart rate and force, constricts your arteries and affects heart rhythms. It thickens the blood plus increased blood pressure is also a risk factor for stroke.

Take Care of Your Stress

Just like what happened to me… it will catch up with you. I’m lucky I had a warning and my body gave me a signal to slow down. We better start listening or we will end up struggling with many of the illnesses, some of which are very difficult to reverse.

You will never be able to eliminate “ALL” stress from our life, that is unrealistic. But, you can practice stress management, take care of your health and work on your mind/body connection.

Plenty of research has found that stress management and relaxation techniques can help you become more able to adapt to stressful events, more efficient in functioning during stress and better able to recover from stress. Schedule weekly “you time”. Engaging in an activity that you love and enjoy that does not cause you anything but enjoyment. Laugh often too. Pray and take time to enjoy the outdoors. Much of chronic stress has to do with feeling out of control or helpless.

Take Aways

  • Stress is normal but too much is very harmful.
  • You CAN learn how to better manage stress.
  • Chronic stress can affect every physical and psychological system.





Stress, Consequences and Overall Health – Fabio Comana


gossip dies

Every single time you speak, you have a choice.  Either you are going to say something positive,  encouraging,  or of value.  Or you can say something unkind, negative and mean spirited…….. choose kindness.  “We respect and want to work with those whom we know we can trust.”     We also relate better to women whom we can talk to who will lift us up and encourage us.

I was talking to 2 ladies one night AFTER all of our classes at the gym were done.  We were having a very candid conversation about Gossip and  how women are wired, in general.   One of them said, BFIT is such an amazing culture of women, I always feel safe, encouraged and able to be my true self.  She also stated how important it was to her that she could come into a gym full of women and the gossip and negativity didn’t exist (most of the time.. haha).  Here is why…… and i would encourage anyone reading this blog, to make this your RULE.

MY RULE:  If i am talking to someone individually or in a group, and I start talking about 1 person in particular (and he/she is not in that room),  I ALWAYS pretend that person is actually IN the room.  Whatever I am saying about that person to the entire group, has to be something I would say if he/she were present.  PERIOD.  If you are talking about someone in front of others,  and you couldn’t say those exact words directly to that person, THEN IT IS GOSSIP!  PERIOD!   This is my golden rule and has been practicing it for many years.  Gossip is a cancer that spreads like fire.  It also brings others down around you and quite honestly, make you look like an insecure idiot.  I am able to pick out a gossipy, insecure woman a mile away.  I don’t associate myself with these types of women, BUT I do try to help them. It is amazing to me that women like this think they are getting any sort of respect.  In fact, it’s the opposite.  It’s annoying and totally not fun to be around this kind of woman. If you want more respect and want to be a women of integrity, gossip has GOT to leave you.  Choosing to not gossip is a practiced behavior and a choice.  I encourage you to work on this.  It only hurts you in the long run.

I expect every woman at BFit who is a part of my program to abide by this, or it will be a huge problem with me.  It is so important for me to create an environment of positivity, kindness, friendship and integrity.  I need the BFIT environment to be one of high standards.  One that  when people walk into the gym, they sense an energy of support,  fun warmth and positivity.  These are the types of women I want to be around, so why should I tolerate anything else in my business… I won’t!!

Everything you say and do reflects on your character and your values.  Don’t you want to be the kind of person whom people trust? Don’t you want to be that person that when you walk into a room, people gravitate towards, versus avoid?   If you notice people don’t interact with you or avoid you a lot or don’t want to engage in conversation with you, It may be time to evaluate yourself.  I would even ask a valued friend their opinion.. sometimes you may not know how negative you are coming off, or maybe you just need an honest friend to say… STOP IT!!!

I want to build a reputation of wisdom and expertise. And I am very honest with every women that comes to my gym.  I tell them I do not tolerate gossip, negativity and mean spirited behavior.  This is a place where we come together, work on ourselves and improve our entire way of thinking.   I can tell you that when you are around other women who are positive and encouraging and do not gossip, it is a relief and gives us room to be ourselves.  Building friendships with other like minded women is so powerful.

Associate with people who are smart, wise and kind.  They will help you grow, and you will inspire them as well.


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5 Concepts that will Change your Body – FAST!

5 Concepts5 Concepts that will Change your Body

 If you do these 5 things DAILY, you will see changes in your physique pretty fast. As well as feeling a whole lot better.

1)  SLEEP! Sleep is so important. Not only does it reset your hormones to burn more fat, but it affects your daily performance and daily nutritional cravings. If you don’t get enough sleep, you will have cravings throughout the day and feel exhausted, which usually leads to not gym time for you. Get plenty of rest so you wake up refreshed to take on the day. You will plan your meals better, eat better and be more likely to get a workout in.

2)  Eat every 2-4 hours. When you eat mini meals periodically during the day, without getting FULL, you will keep your blood sugar stable, increase your metabolism and have better energy.

3)  Every time you eat, take in a protein and carbohydrate together. No more eating carbs all by themselves. This has such an amazing impact on your blood sugar levels and cravings which in return helps to burn fat more efficiently as well as have better energy throughout the day.

4)  Your workouts should be SHORT and INTENSE. Do not get hung up on hours and hours of long duration cardio. Do a few INTENSE, HITT training cardio and weight workouts per week instead. It improves glucose metabolism, fat burning and muscle building.   It’s important to remember one of the biggest benefits of a high intensity interval workout like this; long after you are finished working out, your caloric burn remains higher as your metabolism tries to restore your body to its normal physical and chemical resting state after the “disturbance” that you cause in your system’s preferred balance.

5)  Quit eating fast food, sugar, boxed foods, canned foods and items that are full of chemicals and preservatives. Not only will you have a difficult time losing body fat, but these will build up in your system and can cause long term health issues. This includes alcohol.  Diseases like diabetes, insulin resistance, thyroid disorders, auto-immune disorders and heart problems are all related to inflammation, blood sugar and hormone imbalances all due to putting these exotoxins into your body.

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Quit with the “Stinky Thinkin”


I understand that we all have days where we might feel less positive and don’t have the best attitudes, BUT… If you are continuously living in this negative state of mind, day in and day out, you need to get this in check. Nothing affects our goals, decisions, emotions and energy output more than having “stinky thinkin”. If you are always down on yourself telling yourself how unfit, ugly, fat or whatever else you say to yourself, your body is not going to want to give you good results. If your attitude sucks, and you are always focusing on the negative in your life, how are you ever going to set goals and move ahead. In his CD , “Controlling your Self Talk” Lou Tice speaks about how “We will move towards and we become like, that which we think about”.

I could go on and on about how important this is, but unless you have a coach that will help you work through this and give you tools to help you change these bad habits, you will be stuck.  We can help.  www.bfitbsexy.com.

Don’t get caught up in the trap of negative self-talk and self-sabatoge. You must start focusing on all the good you have in your life. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTH IT, YOU BRING VALUE TO OTHERS AND LIFE IS AMAZING WHEN YOU FOCUS ON WHAT IS IMPORTANT.  Why not start TODAY.  Every time you have a negative thought or a hurtful word that you tell yourself.. STOP and switch it to something happy and positive.  Try it… make it a daily priority.  You’ll be amazed at how it changes your day.  Be Inspired!